“Time is a companion that goes with us on a journey. It reminds us to cherish each moment, because it will never come again. What we leave behind is not as important as how we have lived.” – Captain Picard
This week DVSD hired a Program Director. Matt Johnston has been around the program for years — he is actually one of the actors in our first dvd that has been circulated nationally. Pretty exciting. The interesting thing is that one of the reactions that I have gotten is “wow, a guy!”
Patrick Stewart (Captain Jean-Luc Picard from Star Trek: The Next Generation) has talked openly about growing up in a violent home. A fabulous clip is circulating that shows Mr. Stewart answering a question from woman — a fellow survivor of family violence — where he discusses the role that he can play to honor both is father and his mother. He very eloquently states that his fathers abuse was never acceptable, but he can make a difference by getting involved in helping other men not abuse. CLICK HERE to see the 7 minute video.
The notion that we must support and help the abusers in our midst is one that is met with a great deal of resistance… trust me… but domestic violence is a learned behavior. Why on Earth should we give up on those men who abuse? Re-teach a 20 something man not to hit and generations that follow will be positively effected.
One would never say to a homeowner who had trash in their yard “sorry about the litter, let’s keep cleaning it up but not do anything to try and convince the person tossing it to stop”… so why do we take that same approach when it come to abuse? We “clean up” by helping the survivors heal but do not do enough to involve the abusers in the process.
Only when both sides are involved will change happen… DVSD program is one such intervention that works with both survivors and offenders. I am honored to witness the dialogues that take place. The videos that we have made and are about to make is our way to reach both groups nationally. We are currently checking out crowd-funding sites to try and fund our next dvd — it will be in Spanish. If anyone has opinions on ones that they have used…. would love to hear!!